Gaining on the Golden Years

Last year, after my 56th birthday, I began to understand what the phrase, “feeling your age,” actually entails. What caught me by surprise, however, is how it looks.

Evidently, my  appearance has betrayed me. Strangers no longer refer to me as “miss.” At some point, I stepped over that invisible threshold into a new reality. I am now known as “ma’am.”

me leaning on pole

Apparently this is how “ma’am” looks

Aging is sly the way it sneaks up on you. There are no bulletins to announce its arrival. It suddenly appears when you aren’t paying attention. Looking in the mirror one day, you wonder whose face is staring back. Personally, I never saw it coming. 

In my late 20s, I was still carded at the grocery store when buying alcohol. I found it amusing. Little did I realize that in just over a decade, my face would be framed by gray hairs with a mind of their own. Pimples are replaced with age spots. The corners of my eyes are now home to more laugh lines than heard in a comedy club. Makes me wonder if I hadn’t had such a good time up to this point, would I still look 25?

Now don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against aging. After all, consider the alternative. It’s just that I thought I would do it better. Take yesterday, for instance. I was typing at my computer when I gazed down to catch a glimpse of something from the reptilian family move across my keyboard. Thinking my cat Oliver (as generous as he is) brought me another lizard, my heart skipped a beat. False alarm. The lizard was my hand; a rather wrinkled, veiny looking hand, at that.

Pretty scary, if you ask me

When I was in high school, before we realized the sun was not our friend, my cohorts and I drenched ourselves in baby oil and then baked poolside. Our only concern was that our bikinis might shield too many rays.

Ah, the ignorance of youth

Since childhood, I had a deep tan from June through September. It was like an extra appendage that was attached to me four months of the year. I felt incomplete when it was gone. But then the ozone got that big hole and the next thing we knew, ultra-violet rays were public enemy number one.

So 25 years ago I threw away my baby oil, bought silly looking sun hats, and purchased sunscreen with enough SPFs to keep me looking albino. But it was too late.

All those warnings my mother gave me, which naturally I ignored, have returned to haunt me. Somehow, she refrained from saying, “I told you so,” when I complained my face no longer possessed a stitch of collagen.

Too much, too late Too much, too late

Aging, however, isn’t entirely the sun’s fault. Some things are inevitable, like aches, pains and gravity. Even though I play tennis, jog and lift weights, when I hit 40 I woke up with someone else’s body.

Many mornings I hobble from bed feeling like the Tin Man who discovers his oil can is empty. Also, things don’t seem to be in the same place they were before; the girls (my breasts), once content residing up north — are like retirees rapidly heading south. And if I wave, my triceps flap about like flags on a breezy day. So I don’t wave.

All the essentials

Yes, I know that age is relative, and when I’m 80 I will look back on these complaints and realize how lucky I was. The harsh reality of aging is that my bikini days are over (hold the applause please). My bathroom drawer now contains a steady supply of brown hair dye and Ibuprofen.

These accessories help ease the shock of growing older by attempting to disguise the obvious. This is all well and good. However, nothing quite prepares you for that moment when a stranger first calls you “ma’am.”

2 thoughts on “Gaining on the Golden Years

  1. Hey Janet,

    Great blog! If it’s any consolation, after you pass 65 or thereabout, the younger men in retail will again refer to you as “Miss”. I just laugh to myself and keep going!

    • Uh oh. Just today at the grocery store the young clerk said, “Thank you, Miss” as he handed me my bag. Maybe I look closer to 65 than I thought!

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